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1. I think my parent needs more help. How can I tell for sure what they need? When a parent needs more help, it is important to keep things in perspective. Remember that you do not have to do everything by yourself and there is help available in the community. First, determine what type of help your parent needs. If he needs help with meals, there are programs available in the community. If she has become physically frail, some modest adjustments to the home might help tremendously. Well-placed grab bars and close attention to removing tripping hazards such as throw rugs and extension cords can go a long way in keeping someone safe and independent. Also, consider a personal call system, which is very helpful for frail people at home alone. If your loved one is beginning to experience some memory loss, even though he is physically independent, it’s time to seek some help. Contact your local Alzheimer’s Association for guidance and suggestions of appropriate services. For those with increased physical needs, perhaps an adult day health program a few days a week will provide you with the break you need, and also give your parent a chance to make new friends and interact with peers. Another option is home care. This is available in many different configurations ranging from companion care to a visit from licensed and registered nurses. Sometimes well-scheduled home care visits can meet a person’s needs for quite a while. If your parent is truly in need of 24-hour care, there are still options available to you. Depending upon the level of need, assisted living facilities or adult homes may be the right fit. For those with increased needs, a nursing home really is the best option. Here, skilled professionals care for your loved one night and day. Nutritious meals are provided and a variety of social and religious services are available. When the need for nursing care is clear, the decision to go to a skilled nursing home is an appropriate and compassionate one. For information about local providers available to help you, go to www.rahsa.com. 2. I promised I would never put them in a nursing home, but I see no other option! Admittedly, this can be a difficult situation. The important thing is that your mother gets the care she needs in a safe environment. If you can no longer do that yourself, you must look at options. Don’t hesitate to get some help to gently advise your parent that, while you want to, you just cannot provide the help that is needed by yourself. However, you can help your mother by addressing some of the fears she may have about this change. 3. How do I talk to my parent about accepting more help? Although a sensitive subject for many, this is not an impossible one to address. Getting started may be the most difficult step. Keep the discussion calm and low key. Family meetings can work well. This provides a forum for you to talk about your concerns. Then everyone can be involved in identifying what the real issues may be and coming up with ideas. It is often helpful to engage the assistance of a third party, perhaps your parent’s physician or attorney, or bring in a social worker to help.

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